How To Talk So Your Kids Will Listen

Posted on November 19th, 2015 8:30pm
By: prepacadtutors

Kids can be stubborn… but we can be too. The way we talk to our children has an impact on their learning and their ability and willingness to listen. The way we communicate with them and others rubs off on them and influences the way they communicate with others. According to, there are three ways parents speak to their children. The first uses aggressive tactics, whereas the second type utilizes passive aggression to deal with communication. The third tactic uses assertive communication, which is found to be the most effective form of communication for children of all ages. This type of communication requires a firm, clear, consistent and positive approach in speaking with your child. This method allows for an open line to be established between child and parent. Below are 20 tips to improve your communication with your child.

  1. Use your child’s name.
  2. Use positive language.
  3. Make eye contact with your child.
  4. Use volume appropriately (louder does not mean they listen more).
  5. Suggest options and alternatives.
  6. Keep directions simple.
  7. Don’t nag.
  8. Model and expect good manners.
  9. Be gentle, yet firm.
  10. Utilize open-ended questions.
  11. Check for understanding.
  12. Explain your expectations with “I” messages.
  13. Give notice.
  14. Use enquiry-based listening (just go with what they’re interested in – participate with them).
  15. Make time for one-on-one conversations.
  16. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
  17. Be considerate.
  18. Show acceptance.
  19. Don’t interrupt.
  20. Make conversation a priority with your kids.